Super-happy couples are in the minority. But there are always certain people who defy the odds.
If you fall into this select group, that’s awesome. If not, you can in time. (And some couples move from ‘good’ to ‘super-happy’ with some relationship skills training from a short time in good couples counseling.) Here are some ideas for you:
Relationships are a journey and are always changing. Some are getting better and some are deteriorating.
Understanding what those with uniquely fulfilling relationships talk about will give you some ideas about how to improve your own relationship.
More Than the Weather
Before going into more specifics, it’s good to realize that the happiest couples talk mostly about things that have depth to them.
Sure, there are surface conversations about the weather, schedules and summaries of what happened during the day.
But those are conversations you can have with a perfect stranger at a coffee shop. Anyone can talk about those things.
In a healthy, committed relationship, the walls come down and discussions about things you wouldn’t share with anyone else come up.
Just what are some of these rich conversations about? Here are several common topics.
Problem-Solving Discussions
Problems abound in every relationship. Some of them, we cause. Others are completely out of our control.
Most of the time, unhappy couples fight about these stressors. By doing so, they make their problems worse than they originally were.
Although happy couples have moments of weakness and fight at times, those instances are quite rare. And when the inevitable fights come, the couples know hoe ‘fight fair.’
Instead, happy couples work together to come up with solutions to problems. They’re better able to handle the struggles every person experiences through teamwork.
They fight the problem instead of fighting about the problem. And that makes all the difference.
The result is that super-happy couples grow even closer together because of problems.
Problems cause the demise of some relationships. Those same difficulties become the glue that holds the relationships of fulfilled couples together.
Super-Happy Couples Talk About the Future
For anyone, thinking about the future can be scary. There’s no way to know exactly what will happen.
Happy couples talk about the future anyway. They share about their hopes, fears and dreams. They plan the best they can though they realize some things are out of their control.
After talking about the future, happy couples come up with ways to better themselves, their children, their community and people around the world.
Happy couples implement plans to make a positive difference in the world together.
Other Conversations
What else do exceptionally happy couples talk about?
They talk about their fears, their beliefs, their childhood and what bothers them. But that’s not all.
Happy couples build happy memories together and get to remind each other of them.
These memories make even unhappy situations much better. You’ll just know. If it is time for you to schedule your couples counseling appointment online using our online scheduling tool, call us at (949) 393-8662, or text us.
