Don’t Wait Until It is Too Late!
If you are struggling with relationship problems such as not not feeling loved, not getting along or are having trust issues (due to texting other people, hiding cell phones, or even affairs), please don’t wait one more day.Our licensed marriage counselors at OC Relationship Center 949-220-3211 want to help.Because here is the truth: you weren’t taught how to have a great relationship or partnership. In fact, you learned about relationships from your parents. (Need we say more?)That is exactly why couples counseling can be so helpful.
Good news! Couples counseling can help with these common issues:
- There has been an affair and now what? (“Can we get past this? I don’t want to break up our family.”)
- Trust has been broken. (“I want to trust and I can’t seem to forgive. What can I do?”)
- Reduced intimacy. (“We are more like roommates than lovers.”)
- Feeling unloved and not nurtured ( “I used to feel special…cared for.. loved (or admired). Now I feel ignored, nagged and criticized.”)
- Loss of connection (“At one time, we couldn’t get enough of each other. Now we hardly ever talk. I’m lonely.”)
- Loss of communication: (“You just don’t understand. You don’t GET ME.”)
- Trying to solve the same old argument (“Why do you keep doing that? I’ve told you 50
- times it drives me crazy!”)
Loss of love: (“I love you but I am not in-love with you anymore.”)
It is time to feel better.
Most couples can solve or reduce their problems with new skills and new tools. The good news is that these skills and tools can be taught. The great news is that with desire and practice, many relationships get better and happier. We can’t promise to save every relationship, but we believe in love and we want to help make it easier and better for you.
How does couples counseling work?
For most people, the beginning of a relationship is the easiest. You seem to be on the same page about most issues. Getting along is almost effortless. Some couples describe this as a sense of ‘oneness’ – a merging of two people into a couple.
As time goes on, each partner realizes that all is not perfect. It is how they each look at their differences and respond to them that can predict a happy relationship or continuing struggles.
This is where couples counseling comes in. The licensed counselors at Orange County Relationship Center are experts at listening to each partner’s concerns and quickly identifying problems. Next, we help each partner to both understand their mate’s concerns and communicate his/her own.
How do we choose a good Couples Counselor?
Most therapists have been trained and are experienced with individual therapy. But sadly, many psychotherapists who perform Couples’ Therapy have not been trained to do so. We have found through experience and research that the most effective couples’ therapy combines skill-building with feedback and insight on communication patterns and processes and often include regular homework assignments. You do not need a couple’s therapist to simply listen to the fight of the week and act as a referee. These type of sessions do not teach you how to be better partners and are not likely to produce any long-lasting changes in relationship patterns.
So when you’re choosing a couples’ therapist, be sure to ask them how active and directive they are in their sessions. Finally, you should also ask your therapist how many couples’ or marriage counseling sessions they do every week. If it’s less than 5-10, they are doing couples’ therapy as a minor sidelight, not as a main thrust of their practice and they may not be as experienced in working with this modality.
Rest assured, the premarital counselors at Orange County Relationship Center in Newport Beach, CA have advanced training in working with couples. Each counselor has a full caseload of at least 75% couples. You will be in good hands with us.
The bottom line is this: Life is too short to live like this. And actually, when you think about it, isn’t life too LONG to live like this? Is it time for you to give couples counseling a try?
Here are your next steps:
2. Ready to get started with couples counseling right away? Just click here to schedule an appointment at our offices in Newport Beach.
3. Prefer email? Contact us here: [email protected]
“But what if my partner doesn’t want to come in for couples counseling?”
This is actually quite common. And, yes, we would love to have both partners commit to working together on the relationship. Couples therapy works well when we have two partners committed to improving the relationship. However, we have successfully helped” many relationships improve – with just one person coming for “couples counseling.” We call it Couples Counseling for One.
We believe you can improve your relationship by becoming more aware of what you need, what you believe your partner needs, and then making some adjustments to how you interpret and respond in your interactions. We think that is great news: You have the opportunity to improve your relationship without struggling to get your mate to change.
But make no mistake, our goal with “couples counseling for one” is the same as if both partners were there. We will listen to what you say your mate complains about, try to help you see it in a new way, and help you communicate in a way your partner is likely to hear you. Our desire is to help you see how you can be a better, more loving partner – which we’ve found often results in a happy relationship for both of you. (Plus it is a lot easier than trying to force someone else to change, right?)
If not now, when?
Please don’t wait until the distance between you has grown too great. Consider couples therapy today. Because you deserve love. And we want to help you have a more healthy, fulfilling and loving relationship.