Are you agonizing over a broken heart? Things can and will get better for you though it may be hard to believe right now. Healing from a broken heart isn’t about a mystical shot in the dark for a remedy. Thankfully, the steps to take are more exact than that. A broken heart is a serious injury and most would agree that it’s way more painful than physical injury.
If you fall and scrape your arm, you’ll have to go through a healing process that involves ointment and band aids. In the same way, you’ll need to take steps to recover from the wound of a broken heart. But it would be complete jabberwocky to say that the pain or injury level is of the same magnitude as an arm scrape. Here are some things that will help you to heal.
Every injury whether physical or emotional takes time to heal. If you cut your head open, it doesn’t matter if you have the best doctors, medication or bandages, it won’t feel better instantly. You’ll need time. A broken heart needs plenty of time.
If you’re dealing with a newly broken heart, you likely feel awful. You are going through normal human responses to a situation like yours. Just always remember that how terrible you feel right now will not always be how you feel. Try charting on a calendar each day about your pain level to prove this on a scale of 1 to 10, ten being the worst possible pain.
At the end of each day, write your number for the day. As the days, weeks and months go by, that number should begin to slowly drop. That will encourage you since you’ll have tangible proof of your progress. But time alone won’t heal your broken heart. Here are a few other things that will help.
Staying busy is crucial especially if your broken heart is new. Regardless of who did the dumping or if there was a mutual parting, the worst thing to do is to go home and sulk. Curling into the fetal position is tempting but don’t do it. Stay busy to avoid having too much time to think. Take on a few extra work hours, go for a long walk or buy yourself the biggest ice cream sundae that you can find. Mind-occupying activities such as reading a good book or playing video games will be invaluable, too. Busyness will help to tell your body and mind that everything is going to be ok. It will also pass time more quickly and easily which is exactly what you want.
Get Together With Friends
Fight the urge to isolate. Especially if you feel like you were rejected, you may worry that you’re a terrible person or not good enough. The reality is that every person has a lot of great traits and some things to improve on. If you spend time with good friends and family, they’ll be able to help you to evaluate your situation. They’ll be able to validate that you’re “ok” and lovable. Negative internal dialogue, ongoing anger or jealousy will weaken their hold on you by spending time with friends, too. You could also try journaling as this is a way of communicating your deepest thoughts even though it’s not with another person.
The reality is that there are a lot of things that you can do to help heal a broken heart. The best thing to do is to take action instead of letting everything passively happen to you. After all, you wouldn’t treat a physical injury that way. The reality is that you’re going to get better and, when you do, you’ll be a stronger person than you were before!