In a world that is filled with new technology and a new social media site popping up every other day, are we living in a society where posting on these sites can hurt and even destroy our personal relationships?
Does blogging and live journaling hurt the feelings of those around us who read what we share online to the whole world? Do our friendships and relationships suffer because of the petty arguments we take part in on Facebook and Twitter? Is jealousy caused by Facebook stalking”? Does your mate get jealous when they see that someone is “poking” you or even posting on your timeline? There are so many people now that are closing their Facebook accounts because of a jealous lover or spouse, so what makes this social network so hazardous to your relationships?
Reconnecting with that old Flame
Facebook began as a way for people to reconnect with friends from their pasts. That friend that you had in middle school or perhaps even high school suddenly has found you and you have so much catching up to do. Finding that college friend that you missed saying goodbye to suddenly sends you a Facebook message and what a surprise! There are a realm of possibilities that have happened on Facebook and happen on the site everyday! However, there have been quite a few jealousy incidents as well. For instance, your high school prom date finds you on Facebook. The one that got away, you think. You have told your spouse all about them because you both share everything, right? Your spouse finds a post on your timeline from them, and goes ballistic! You’re convinced that your high school friend just wishes to reconnect, your spouse thinks otherwise. You never thought that this could be a way to hurt your relationship, but others may see it in a different way.
Some spouses believe that there is a new phenomenon known as Cyber Cheating. This type of cheating comes from constant banter between two or more people on Facebook. Some people misconstrue a wink or a sticker on Facebook as a way of flirting. Many of the newer relationships are damaged by Facebook in this way. What seems like a completely innocent conversation via Facebook messages, can be looked upon as your spouse or mate as a sexual invite, or even an invitation to dinner, when really it is simply an innocent and simple get to know you again gesture. It is important that you do keep lines of communication open with your partner or spouse about finding old flames and friends on Facebook. Honesty and trust are keep factors.
Whatever you do.. Don’t bring the relationship drama online
Surely, you have seen a lot of your friends post things on Facebook that are entirely too personal. A lot of younger, immature couples see Facebook as a way to air out their drama to the world. Do not drag up rumors of the other cheating on you on their timeline. Do not try to drag all of your mutual friends into the gossip either, it’s just a terrible idea! Make sure that if you want to vent about your partner or spouse, you do so with a friend via a phone call or text. Do not do it on Facebook publicly, this is the easiest way for them to see it and probably decide to end your relationship because you can’t talk to them about the issue at hand.
Make sure that when you do become involved with someone and they do also have a Facebook account, make sure that you both agree on the fact that you want to post your relationship status for the whole world to see. A lot of people are very private and may want to continue to have their status invisible or even listed as single. Many people get a little obsessive if their partner does not want to change their relationship status. Make sure you both know what you are getting into before you take the big step and become “Facebook official”.
Too Many “Selfies”
Everyone likes to take photos of themselves of Facebook, but how many self portraits do you actually need in one day? You get a new bikini, so you want to take photos, you get a new pair of earrings, you get new tattoos, you get new underwear, all reasons that people find to post photos of themselves all over Facebook. What if your partner is not all right with you posting these pictures? What if you keep getting comments about how sexy you look in them, beginning the online flirting and cyber cheating that your spouse has been worried about. This could automatically turn your relationship into a bad one. Make sure that if you are in a relationship, you keep the sexy selfies to a minimum. Your partner should be seeing you in these sexy photos, not complete strangers!
Social Networking does seem to be the trend of the future and it is important that we try to keep our personal drama and problems to ourselves. Using these sites as ways to vent are usually not a great idea and if you are private with your love life as well as your private life, you will be able to limit the amount of issues that you will have with your partner or spouse.