Looking for the ever-elusive relationship fairy to give you the nod? For her to tell you that you should marry your partner?
Good luck with that one!
Although there are plenty of emotions that go into a budding relationship, deciding if your partner is the one doesn’t need to be a mystical decision.
There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to deciding. But here are some ways to help determine if your partner is “the one.”
Most Of The Time, You’re Happy
This is an important one because if you ask 10 different people how they knew their spouse was the one, you may get ten different answers.
It may have been because their partner made them laugh, was kind, romantic, responsible, physically attractive or any combination of things.
But boiled down, it meant that, most of the time, they were happier with their partner than unhappy.
It sounds very similar to what makes someone conclude they have a satisfying job. Most of the time, they are happy with it so they stick with it.
Conversely, if you increasingly find you’re unhappy in your relationship, this could be a sign to hold off.
Others Say Your Partner’s The One
You shouldn’t necessarily give up on a relationship if someone close to you doesn’t like your partner.
However, if you have more than one close friend or family member who thinks your significant other is the one, that’s worth paying attention to.
Your friends and family are able to maintain a less biased view of your relationship. While you’re worried about your relationship working and doing all you can to make it a success, they’re just watching.
Most of the time, those who know you best have a pretty good idea. They can easily tell if you become a better person because of the person you’re with or the opposite.
If you’re consistently happy, they pick up on that. If there’s a consistent dark cloud over your life that wasn’t there before your relationship started, there’s no way those closest to you won’t notice.
Spend A Lot Of Time With Them
Lastly, spend plenty of time with your partner before deciding to marry.
Spend enough time with them to know if you’re happy most of the time with them or not.
Marriage never should be a knee-jerk or desperation move. Those who hope marriage will “clean up” their relationship problems are almost always disappointed.
Make the reason you marry be because you can’t imagine going through life without your partner.
The more time you spend together, the less you’ll second guess your decision. You’ll just know. Schedule your appointment online using our online scheduling tool, call us at (949) 393-8662, or text us.
