Infidelity is one of the most damaging things that can occur within a marriage. Each year, countless divorces occur because one spouse has had an affair, and the couple was not able to put the broken pieces of their marriage back together again. However, there are also those couples who choose to work on their marriages. How do you know if your marriage is worth saving? And, how do you begin to fix it when it seems so broken?
Should You Stay Or Should You Go?
That is the question on everyone’s mind when they find out that their spouse has cheated on them. Fight or flight? Only you can determine whether or not you want to invest the time and energy into healing your marriage. However, if there is any part of you that does, we recommend giving it a chance to mend. Forgiveness is possible, and many couples have forgiven infidelity and have gone on to live together in wedded bliss for the rest of their lives.
What Should You Expect?
What you shouldn’t expect is to wake up tomorrow morning and find out that everything is just fine. You shouldn’t expect the pain to go away overnight. You’ve been dealt a hard blow, and it will take some time to get over the pain you feel.
Give yourself the time you need. You will go through the entire gamut of emotions as you work through your feelings and begin to heal. One day, you will be incredibly sad, and everything will make you cry. The next day, you’ll be terribly angry at the world, and even more so at your spouse for putting you through this pain. Some days, you’ll feel numb, unable to feel anything at all.
All of these responses are perfectly normal, and they’re to be expected. However, give yourself the time you need to experience them and work through them. They are your pathway toward wholeness once again.
Help Is Available
If you find that you are having a difficult time working through your feelings by yourself, or if you’re not sure if you want to save your marriage, it helps to have a third party to talk to to help sort out your feelings. Help is available, and this isn’t a journey you have to take by yourself. By reaching out, you’re taking the first of many steps toward putting the pieces of your marriage back together again. Please give the licensed therapists at OC Relationship Center a call today at 949-393-8662 or book your appointment online. We are here to help you.