Do you believe in the idea of only one soul mate when it comes to relationships? If so, such beliefs could be undermining your potential success at a long-term relationship.
At first glance, it might seem like the soul-mate belief would increase your chances for relational stability. Unfortunately, that just isn’t the case.
Here’s why.
The Never-Ending Pursuit of Relational Perfection
The soul mate pursuit is much like Indiana Jones’ search for the Fountain of Youth. You keep searching and it keeps evading you.
You’re looking for perfection in an imperfect world and leaving no stone unturned.
Disappointment is inevitable.
An emotional high is what you most seek. You’re looking for that “perfect” someone who will cause all the confusing parts of your life to finally click into place.
And that person doesn’t exist because true love isn’t a feeling. It’s an action.
The Trying Out Partners Game
From time to time, you find someone who sets your emotional state on fire. Things are passionate as you consider the fact that you’ve finally found “The One.”
Eventually, glaring imperfections surface that simply can’t be ignored. You convince yourself that this partner wasn’t your soul mate after all.
Another fling takes the place of your last one. Again, there’s a lot of passion but no permanence.
It’s just a matter of time until this new love also disappoints. And, in time, the “I found my soul mate/nope I was wrong” cycle repeats itself yet again.
The Benefits of Abandoning the Soul Mate Myth
The reality is that real, long-term relationships require far more than a passionate emotional state to survive.
If you merely chase the thrill in your relationships, you’ll always be looking for the next-best thing. You won’t be able to stay committed to one relationship.
Emotions come and go. And problems are inevitable in any relationship.
For a relationship to survive, couples have to change (Not partners but themselves).
It becomes more than an emotional frenzy. Instead, the focus shifts to becoming better individuals together.
That turns out to be a lot of hard work but it’s worth it in the long run.
Instead of running away when problems come along, you stand with your partner to solve them. Your relationship is more important than problems.
You tackle difficulties together and grow even stronger as a couple because of it.
Are you stuck on the emotional soul-mate roller coaster? It’s time to get off the drama ride and to reach for something better. Now could be the perfect time to contact the OC Relationship Center to build a better foundation for a healthy relationship!
