Finding “the one” is a big priority for most people and understandably so. It involves something way more enduring than an emotional “Hollywood high.”
You’re looking for something that will last a lifetime, not for a mere day or week. But deciding if someone is the right one can be stressful.
Here are a few ways to tell if that special someone is “the one and only”.
You Trust Each Other
Mutual trust is the foundation of the house of your relationship. If you doubt you have trust at the early stages, you can almost guarantee that you won’t have it later on.
There needs to be a settled confidence that you and your partner will consistently act in the best interest of each other.
Without trust, your relationship will be built on a shaky foundation. All it will take is a little adversity and that house will collapse.
Trust is crucial and indispensable. If you don’t have it in your current partner, they are not the one.
You Make Each Other Better
If you’re in a toxic relationship, deep down, you know that you don’t make each other better. You don’t bring out the best in each other.
But if you’re in a good, healthy relationship, the answer is clear. You can easily see how much you’ve progressed as people because of each other.
You better understand life, have learned selfless devotion and have gone through adversity only to come out of it stronger than before.
You mutually respect each other, encourage each other and help each other improve in all aspects of life.
You Have Similar Values, Goals and Beliefs
Do you feel like you and your partner have compatible goals?
Things to consider include career goals, family dreams and religious beliefs.
Do you feel that given what you know, the two of you will be compatible or will there likely be a source of ongoing friction?
This is an important question to ask. If the person you’re getting to know is “the one”, the answer will be “yes”.
Spending Time Together Is Enjoyable
Do you have a blast when you’re together or do you feel like you’re in shackles?
If you’ve found the one, you won’t need to hesitate on this one.
If you’ve found “the one” you’ll have a long list of things you do together that are fun. You’ll have a smile on your face you won’t be able to wipe off.
It really comes down to whether your relationship is working for or against your wellbeing.
Need some additional help sorting out whether your partner is “the one.” Speaking with a trusted professional can give you the confidence to make the right choice!
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