Quality time. It’s a phrase often heard about spouses that automatically brings a smile to your face. On the other hand, quality time when you have children… many times parents (spouses) forego quality time together because everything is about the kiddos. Not good.
Have you stopped dating your spouse or having any quality time? If so, why? Quality time is very important in a marriage, especially if you have children. A strong marriage, and your children witnessing your strong marriage, is very important. Quality time can be date nights, having sex, going on a trip, or anything the two of you do, only the two of you, as a couple where you give each other your undivided attention.
So, maybe you know this is important, but don’t know what to do to have quality time. You don’t have to spend a fortune, or even any money. You can stay home. Arrange for the kiddos to have an overnight at Grandma’s house or a friend’s house, and stay home and watch a movie together. Consider the season to come up with things you can do together. For example, in winter, stay home and cuddle up for a moving, go ice skating, go driving to look at Christmas decorations. In spring, take a walk, take a bike ride, make a picnic lunch to enjoy in your backyard. In summer, fly kits, go for a bike ride, or go swimming. In fall, go on a hayride to a pumpkin patch, pick apples, go to a football game. The options are endless.
Couples need quality time in order to keep their relationship strong, exciting, and happy. You need to maintain a strong connection. If you aren’t having a date night a few times a month, you are not committed to keeping your marriage strong.
Think about seeing a couple who seems happy. Emulate them if you need to. Those people probably have great communication, touch each other often, and take time for each other. In fact, it’s a good thing to try to make at least 10 or 15 minutes a day to talk about things going on in your worlds. Show physical affection for your spouse. Physically touch keeps people connected. Always be open and honest and focus on the positive things in your marriage. Hang out with positive people and laugh, a lot.
If you find you need help dealing with staying connected, you may want to reach out and let the professionals at the Relationship Center of Orange County help you. Let us help. Schedule your appointment online using our online scheduling tool, call us at (949) 220-3211, or text us.