As life and your marriage moves forward in time, it’s easy to become busy, having separate hobbies and friends or being known only as “Mom” or “Dad” while raising your children. Loss of communication is common in marriages as life goes on. The secret is to never be too busy to stop communicating with your spouse. Easier said than done, right? Wrong.
Nobody’s life is too busy to spend at least a few minutes each day talking to each other. These couple of minutes can be anytime; first thing in the morning, in the middle of the day, while the kiddos are napping, or right before bedtime. Lack of communication is a horrible thing and likely will just lead to more problems, i.e., falling out of love, not caring as deeply for your spouse as you once had, etc. No doubt you may each feel like the other doesn’t understand you anymore or doesn’t care about you as a person anymore. Arguments will begin to ruin your relationship and put you on a long, lonely path.
So how do you get through this? Make a plan. Both of you need to be committed to making changes to become the happy couple you were in years past. Make time to be together, every day. It can be anytime of day; in the morning before the kids wake up, during nap time if you have toddlers, at night before you go to sleep. Just commit to having at least 30 minutes of one-on-one time with your spouse or mate. Other great things to consider are having a date night every week and going away (just you two) at least once a year. Last but certainly not least, have sex. It’s important to have intimacy, not only for the physical contact, but also to stay emotionally attached to each other.
There are so many things you can do to turn your relationship around, but really, it all starts with communication. If you try to talk about your feelings and try to make time to be together, you are on the right path. But what if your efforts are getting you nowhere? This is when you may want to reach out and let the professionals at the Relationship Center of Orange County help you. Schedule your appointment online using our online scheduling tool, call us at (949) 393-8662, or text us.
