If you ask 100 different people who they admire most and why you’ll get dozens of different answers.
But did you know that what we admire in others tells us something about ourselves? And it’s not just superficial tidbits that can be unearthed through such an observation as we’ll see.
What You Admire in Friends
What you admire in friends tells you something about yourself.
Perhaps what you appreciate and admire isn’t exactly enduring. It could be simply that you’re drawn to and admire people who wear nice clothes and look a certain way. Or maybe you admire a certain socio-economic status.
Even with superficial admiration, you can learn something. We all are superficial to an extent so it doesn’t mean you’re a terrible person if you admire traits that are only “skin deep”.
But let’s dig a little further. Perhaps you admire friends who have grit. Friends who had to overcome significant adversity.
If so, it’s likely you had to persevere despite overwhelming obstacles or that you currently are doing your best to make an attempt at it. This likely causes you to appreciate music artists who make songs about overcoming obstacles and causes you to admire those artists.
Maybe you love fitness or adventure and you admire those who hold similar likes, desires and activities.
Regardless, when you discover what you admire you’ll understand yourself a lot better. These admirations aren’t mere coincidences.
Sometimes what you appreciate in someone could get you into trouble. Admiring traits that aren’t, in fact, admirable could tell you that you’ve strayed a bit from where you want to be.
The Components of Purpose
When we get into things like the greatest contribution you can make to humanity, things can get hazy.
Finding the big “why” to your existence isn’t easy for most people. Some never find it. Some compare finding this “calling” to digging it out from the rubble of a collapsed building.
To find such a purpose is frustrating and sometimes agonizing. There are a series of successes and failures along the way.
Sometimes, you may just long for someone to throw you a clue. If you want a clue in this painstaking process, stop and think about who you admire.
Could it be that you are supposed to become what you admire most in others?
No, not a re-creation of someone else. Just you at your very best.
That you are to become someone who others will admire. A signpost in the dark night of others finding their way.
So, when you look at others and admire them. Stop and take notice.
Sure, what you admire might be their hairstyle. But, then again, it could cut to the very core of who you are and who you’re supposed to become. If it is time for you to schedule your couples counseling appointment online using our online scheduling tool, call us at (949) 220-3211, or text us.