Find your path to healing after infidelity with compassionate, effective counseling.
What You Might Be Experiencing:
Infidelity can leave you feeling off-balance—caught between shock, anger, and deep pain. Whether you’ve recently discovered the betrayal or have been grappling with its aftermath for some time, you may feel lost, overwhelmed, and uncertain about your next steps. The trust you once relied on has been shattered, and you might be questioning your self-worth and the future of your relationship.
You may wonder: can this relationship be repaired? Are both of you willing to try? And if you are the one who strayed, the guilt may be overwhelming—or perhaps you find yourself oscillating between guilt and frustration at your partner’s persistent questioning.
It can feel impossible to know whether to answer or avoid those questions. You might be left wondering if you’ll ever move past this.
Common Indicators of Infidelity-Related Distress
Here are some common signs that infidelity may be affecting your well-being:
- Intrusive, recurring thoughts about what your partner did
- Heightened anxiety, sensitivity, and mistrust
- Emotional withdrawal or outbursts that seem to worsen the situation
- Difficulty discussing the issue without defensiveness, criticism, or overwhelming emotion
- A deep-seated worry about your future together
The Real Impact on Daily Life:
When trust is broken, the ripple effects extend far beyond the moment of betrayal.
Constant anxiety and stress can seep into your work, friendships, and family life. Communication may become strained, leaving you isolated in your pain. And it’s not just the betrayed partner who suffers—often, the one who strayed is overwhelmed as well. Over time, these challenges can make restoring a sense of normalcy and intimacy incredibly difficult.
A Vision for the Future
Imagine a future where trust is gradually rebuilt—not only in your partner, but also in yourself.
Picture a relationship where you feel safe opening up about your feelings and hopes.
Though the journey isn’t easy, many of our clients have found that with our infidelity counseling, affair recovery can actually strengthen their relationship. Envision reconnecting on a deeper level, where renewed trust and open communication pave the way for a more secure and fulfilling partnership.
How We Help:
Yes, couples can recover after the betrayal of an affair. As John Gottman once said, “If couples didn’t make it through affairs, the divorce rate would be even higher than it is now.”
Affair recovery? Yes, it is hard, and yes, it takes vulnerability. But what is the alternative? Do you want to move through this and strengthen your relationship?
One recent study offers a hopeful roadmap for couples working through infidelity, highlighting four stages of healing — from the initial shock to rebuilding trust and connection. While the full article is behind a paywall, the key takeaway is this: with the right support and intentional effort, repair is not only possible — it’s deeply human.
Our infidelity counseling approach is designed to guide you through the difficult, emotional journey of healing after infidelity.
We offer a safe, supportive space where both partners can process their feelings and explore how the affair came to be. Our goal is to help you rebuild trust step by step. Using evidence-based therapies—including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Gottman Couples Therapy, and Functional Family Therapy (FFT)—we work with you to address the pain, uncover underlying issues, and craft a shared narrative of recovery.
Learn more about our evidence-based marriage counseling approach.
Our experienced therapists will help you identify your strengths and needs as both a couple and as individuals, standing beside you as we tailor a plan to meet your unique challenges.
Practical Tools & Tips
Take a Pause
Before making any immediate decisions, give yourself time to let your emotions settle. Focus on self-care—eat well, get enough rest, and engage in activities that help calm your mind. It’s important to approach decisions with a clear mind and heart. Talk with a trusted friend who does not have an agenda other than your well-being. Consider professional infidelity counseling with a trained therapist, which can help you sort through overwhelming feelings.
Manage Your Triggers
Identify situations or topics that spark strong emotional reactions, and develop coping strategies to manage them. For instance, if you feel a surge of rage that might lead to actions you’ll later regret, try using a distress tolerance skill—freeze before reacting, take a walk, distract yourself, or even do a few pushups. This can help ensure that your questions and concerns are addressed constructively, rather than in anger.
Seek Professional Support
One of our favorite sayings is, “We can’t see our own backside.” When trust is broken, both partners can be overwhelmed by strong emotions. It might feel validating to share your pain with others, but doing so without guidance can sometimes lead to further harm. Consider reaching out to a trusted clergy member, an affair recovery group, or a trained couples therapist. Professional support can provide the structure you need to navigate your next steps—and you deserve that support.
For a deeper, compassionate look at the emotional landscape of infidelity, we recommend The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel — a thoughtful exploration of why people stray and how couples can begin to heal.
Explore strategies for rebuilding connection after infidelity, including how emotional and physical intimacy can be repaired and redefined over time.
Let’s Begin the Journey
Ready to take that first step toward reclaiming your joy and building stronger connections?
If you’re ready to start healing, rebuild trust, and work through the pain of betrayal, we’re here to help. Reach out with your questions and explore how our tailored approach to infidelity counseling can guide you through this challenging time.
Want to Learn More Before Reaching Out?
Here’s some expert reading to help you understand what you’re going through—and what healing could look like:
- When It’s Not Just Friends: Understanding Emotional Cheating — What it means, why it happens, and how it differs from a close friendship.
- The 5 Types of Infidelity (and Why They Matter) — Identifying the kind of betrayal you’ve experienced can help you begin to process it.
- Mending Your Marriage After an Affair — For couples who want to rebuild—this walks through what real repair can look like.
- How Long Should You Talk About the Affair? — If one of you can’t stop bringing it up (and the other wants to move on), this is for you.