How to Introduce Your Kids to Someone You’ve Been Dating

Looking for the ever-elusive relationship fairy to give you the nod? For her to tell you that you should marry your partner?

Good luck with that one!

Although there are plenty of emotions that go into a budding relationship, deciding if your partner is the one doesn’t need to be a mystical decision.

There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to deciding. But here are some ways to help determine if your partner is “the one.”

Most Of The Time, You’re Happy

This is an important one because if you ask 10 different people how they knew their spouse was the one, you may get ten different answers.

It may have been because their partner made them laugh, was kind, romantic, responsible, physically attractive or any combination of things.

But boiled down, it meant that, most of the time, they were happier with their partner than unhappy.

It sounds very similar to what makes someone conclude they have a satisfying job. Most of the time, they are happy with it so they stick with it.

Conversely, if you increasingly find you’re unhappy in your relationship, this could be a sign to hold off.

Others Say Your Partner’s The One

You shouldn’t necessarily give up on a relationship if someone close to you doesn’t like your partner.

However, if you have more than one close friend or family member who thinks your significant other is the one, that’s worth paying attention to.

Your friends and family are able to maintain a less biased view of your relationship. While you’re worried about your relationship working and doing all you can to make it a success, they’re just watching.

Most of the time, those who know you best have a pretty good idea. They can easily tell if you become a better person because of the person you’re with or the opposite.

If you’re consistently happy, they pick up on that. If there’s a consistent dark cloud over your life that wasn’t there before your relationship started, there’s no way those closest to you won’t notice.

Spend A Lot Of Time With Them

Lastly, spend plenty of time with your partner before deciding to marry.

Spend enough time with them to know if you’re happy most of the time with them or not.

Marriage never should be a knee-jerk or desperation move. Those who hope marriage will “clean up” their relationship problems are almost always disappointed.

Make the reason you marry be because you can’t imagine going through life without your partner.

The more time you spend together, the less you’ll second guess your decision. You’ll just know. Schedule your appointment online using our online scheduling tool, call us at (949) 220-3211, or text us.

Breadwinner Dads—How to Handle the Stress

This a timely topic as the American middle class continues to disappear from the economic landscape. There are plenty of jobs out there but a full-time one is less likely to support a family.

A multitude of dads are really having a tough time. If you can relate, you may feel worthless, like a failure, depressed and angry. There’s the temptation to disconnect from your family and even engage in risky behavior to escape your crummy situation.

Your job may be the best out there but if you can’t provide for your family with it, eventually, you’ll struggle to maintain quality work. There’ll be too many financial stressors that overshadow doing a great job.

This is the most stressed breadwinner dads have been for generations. But what can be done?

Here are a few ideas but don’t stop there. You owe it to yourself and your family to do what it takes.

Cut Your Commute

Even a twenty-minute commute to work each way adds up to over a solid month of 40-hour work weeks where you’re doing nothing but driving!

That’s on top of the solid year of work you’ll already be doing.

That’s not all, though. You’ll also spend thousands of dollars in gas and auto repairs. The money you spend on your commute is immediately subtracted from your income along with taxes, lessening your earning potential.

Unless you work an unusually hazardous job, this is also the most dangerous part of your day. You are far more likely to be injured on the way to and from work than at your job.

Are you driving far away for a higher paying job that stresses you out like crazy? Do the math and decide if you’re better off with a lower-paid job closer to home.

The results of your quick study may shock you. Cut down on your commute and you’ll save money, time and be safer. This adds up to less stress and more positive family influence.

Work Remotely

There’s a huge shift in the job world that simply wasn’t possible before the internet age.
The number of dads (and moms) who work from home continues to increase.

This is a great thing for many dads. You completely cut out the time and expenses of a commute.

Your day also becomes more than punching a clock or mandatory overtime. Instead, you’re focused solely on the quality of hours you work.

This means you work when you’re most productive and that you can pick your own hours.

Doctors appointments, illness and unforeseen life events can be worked through without so much fear that you’ll lose your job by taking too much time off.

You’ll also get much more interaction with your spouse and children.

Is this lifestyle a cakewalk? Hardly.

Still, many dads find remote work to be more of a dance than a 9-to-5 dirge.

Create A Job

Does your pay stink? Do you dread long hours in a toxic environment?

Maybe you look at the job listings in despair finding nothing that suits you. It could be time to create your own job.

Again, this isn’t easy but more dads are finding freedom by creating a job that isn’t at the mercy of micromanagement and corporate cuts. Perhaps you could start a business that involves remote work.

Summing It Up

Other ways to reduce your stress should be considered, too. Some include consistent physical exercise and sleep, a healthy hobby and a good support system.

Know that you’re not alone in your struggle, men. Keep trying until you find what works best to ease your stress. Schedule your appointment online using our online scheduling tool, call us at (949) 220-3211, or text us.

3 Ways To Reduce Your Stress

Our culture tends to view stress as negative. That isn’t necessarily the case.

Stress is unavoidable and for generations, pushed people to achieve things beyond what anyone thought possible.

It isn’t stress by itself that causes major life problems. It’s the amount of it. Unfortunately, everyone experiences levels of stress they find hard to manage at times.

If that’s you right now, here are some things you can do.

Simplify Your Schedule

One major cause of stress is a schedule that’s too full. Busyness can reduce anyone to a frazzled mess.

First, look for things you can easily cut out of your life for a while.

Are you a news hound? There’s nothing wrong with staying informed but much of the news out there details the greatest tragedies of others.

You can only handle so much. Consider backing away for a while. This will give you added time and the chance to dwell on happier things.

Are you consumed with social media and staying connected? Consider taking a break (unless this is an effective stress-management technique for you).

Also, say no to those who request your time if you can get away with it. If you can’t say no, maybe it’s time to leave a career that could literally be killing you. Do what it takes to regain control of your life.

Simplifying your schedule is key. With the many ways to destress your life, there’s just one problem. If you’re too busy to practice any of them, they’re not going to help you too much.

Get In Or Near Water

Water has a natural calming effect. Grab a blanket and lay near a dam, ocean or waterfall. Breathe deep and listen as you relax and forget about your stress.

Think outside the box with this one. There are places where everyone swims. Why not sit in or swim in a river, creek or lake off the beaten path? Bring along goggles and a snorkel and do some exploring if you want.

If you prefer to stay inside or can’t get out due to the weather, take a warm bubble bath, long shower, sit in a hot tub or pool. Also, consider purchasing a small fountain to keep in your home or office.

Research Stress-Relief Tactics

Talk to your coworkers, family, friends, neighbors and search the web for ideas. Try out ones that interest you until you find something that works.

There are literally thousands of stress-relief techniques. That’s a good thing, too, since we’re all different.

Some people find skydiving or rappelling from steep mountain cliffs a remarkable form of stress relief. Others would become way more stressed than they already are doing activities like that!

Try these activities and more:

  • Ride a Bike
  • Take a power nap
  • Spend time with your best friend
  • Create something (a story, painting, drawing, sculpture or craft)
  • Meditate
  • Make a list of 20 (or more) positive things about your life
  • Get a massage
  • Aromatherapy

The opportunities to destress your life are endless. Half the fun is trying new things. Lower your stress and improve the quality of your life now! Schedule your appointment online using our online scheduling tool, call us at (949) 220-3211, or text us.