How to Know If This Person is “The One” For You

Finding “the one” is a big priority for most people and understandably so. It involves something way more enduring than an emotional “Hollywood high.”

You’re looking for something that will last a lifetime, not for a mere day or week. But deciding if someone is the right one can be stressful.

Here are a few ways to tell if that special someone is “the one and only”.

You Trust Each Other

Mutual trust is the foundation of the house of your relationship. If you doubt you have trust at the early stages, you can almost guarantee that you won’t have it later on.

There needs to be a settled confidence that you and your partner will consistently act in the best interest of each other.

Without trust, your relationship will be built on a shaky foundation. All it will take is a little adversity and that house will collapse.

Trust is crucial and indispensable. If you don’t have it in your current partner, they are not the one.

You Make Each Other Better

If you’re in a toxic relationship, deep down, you know that you don’t make each other better. You don’t bring out the best in each other.

But if you’re in a good, healthy relationship, the answer is clear. You can easily see how much you’ve progressed as people because of each other.

You better understand life, have learned selfless devotion and have gone through adversity only to come out of it stronger than before.

You mutually respect each other, encourage each other and help each other improve in all aspects of life.

You Have Similar Values, Goals and Beliefs

Do you feel like you and your partner have compatible goals?

Things to consider include career goals, family dreams and religious beliefs.

Do you feel that given what you know, the two of you will be compatible or will there likely be a source of ongoing friction?

This is an important question to ask. If the person you’re getting to know is “the one”, the answer will be “yes”.

Spending Time Together Is Enjoyable

Do you have a blast when you’re together or do you feel like you’re in shackles?

If you’ve found the one, you won’t need to hesitate on this one.

If you’ve found “the one” you’ll have a long list of things you do together that are fun. You’ll have a smile on your face you won’t be able to wipe off.

It really comes down to whether your relationship is working for or against your wellbeing.

Need some additional help sorting out whether your partner is “the one.” Speaking with a trusted professional can give you the confidence to make the right choice!

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How Do You Know Your Partner Is The One?

Looking for the ever-elusive relationship fairy to give you the nod? For her to tell you that you should marry your partner?

Good luck with that one!

Although there are plenty of emotions that go into a budding relationship, deciding if your partner is the one doesn’t need to be a mystical decision.

There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to deciding. But here are some ways to help determine if your partner is “the one.”

Most Of The Time, You’re Happy

This is an important one because if you ask 10 different people how they knew their spouse was the one, you may get ten different answers.

It may have been because their partner made them laugh, was kind, romantic, responsible, physically attractive or any combination of things.

But boiled down, it meant that, most of the time, they were happier with their partner than unhappy.

It sounds very similar to what makes someone conclude they have a satisfying job. Most of the time, they are happy with it so they stick with it.

Conversely, if you increasingly find you’re unhappy in your relationship, this could be a sign to hold off.

Others Say Your Partner’s The One

You shouldn’t necessarily give up on a relationship if someone close to you doesn’t like your partner.

However, if you have more than one close friend or family member who thinks your significant other is the one, that’s worth paying attention to.

Your friends and family are able to maintain a less biased view of your relationship. While you’re worried about your relationship working and doing all you can to make it a success, they’re just watching.

Most of the time, those who know you best have a pretty good idea. They can easily tell if you become a better person because of the person you’re with or the opposite.

If you’re consistently happy, they pick up on that. If there’s a consistent dark cloud over your life that wasn’t there before your relationship started, there’s no way those closest to you won’t notice.

Spend A Lot Of Time With Them

Lastly, spend plenty of time with your partner before deciding to marry.

Spend enough time with them to know if you’re happy most of the time with them or not.

Marriage never should be a knee-jerk or desperation move. Those who hope marriage will “clean up” their relationship problems are almost always disappointed.

Make the reason you marry be because you can’t imagine going through life without your partner.

The more time you spend together, the less you’ll second guess your decision. You’ll just know. Schedule your appointment online using our online scheduling tool, call us at (949) 220-3211, or text us.